When she asked, "What's Wrong With Me?"

Search Log: 1998

Back then, marriage bureaus were very popular in our circle, and thus we visited one such popular agent, Priya Shah. She gave us a list of prospective candidates with their numbers, and left us to our own wills. Her job was over.

One-by-one, mother called up the families and introduced herself along with the reason of calling. For some reason or the other, like lack of hobbies, their expectations of a non-working housewife, and so on, things did not click.

On one such phone call, the mother of the boy or guy asked:
"Your daughter is 28 years old and still unmarried?"
"Yes", my mother replied. 
"Is there some reason that she is still unmarried?"
"Ji nahi. She is looking for a person who shared the same interests."
"Is there something wrong with her, health and body wise?
"Oh no, she perfectly fine..."

I was taken back by the obnoxious question. Were we, as girls expected to disclose our body or plumbing issues on the phone at the first round of communication itself? And when faced with such an inquiry, can we counter it with some of our own, like" Can he get it up?", or "How does he stay fit?" or "Is he a virgin?" or even "Is his sperm count normal?" and so on?

Neeways, bureaus like Priya Shah drew a null-and-void for me. Don't think they will work for profiles like mine anyways, not when I am being probably "too choosy" to tie the knot with the first Gujju boy of the same stature and education.